By Erin Lindsay
10th Sep 2021
10th Sep 2021
suicidal
In honour of World Suicide Prevention Day, we take a look at how you can support someone who might be suicidal
For many of us, thinking about suicide, much less talking about it, can be difficult. We might feel upset, angry or just overwhelmed. But supporting those who might be feeling suicidal is so important.
The latest figures from the National Office for Suicide Prevention have shown that suicide rates in Ireland have fallen to their lowest levels in 20 years. However, an unknown number of cases still go unreported due to stigma and contradicting causes of death – car crashes or drownings for example. Without an explicit admission, it’s very difficult in some cases to rule whether it was an accident or intentional and out of respect for grieving families, official reporting tends to lean towards the former. Ultimately, we still have a long way to go.
If you think a loved one might be feeling suicidal, and are unsure of the best way to support them, here are some dos and don’ts to help.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions
If you think a loved one might be feeling suicidal, don’t be afraid to ask them in a clear and sensitive way. Many people are afraid to say the words in case it will ‘give the person an idea’, but asking them “you seem low, and I’m worried about you — are you thinking of ending your life?” will give them the chance to open up and begin the conversation around how they feel.
Do listen and let them talk
This may be the first time this person has spoken about suicide. Give them space to explain how they feel and why they feel that way. Be there for them and let them speak for as long as they need to.
Don’t get upset or angry
Try to stay calm and don’t get frustrated if your friend isn’t ready to talk. Do not try to minimise or dismiss how they’re feeling. Although it can be overwhelming, remember that you are there to support them and remain as non-judgemental as possible.
Do reassure them
Let them know that they’re not alone and that there is lots of help out there to support them. Let them know that you’ll be there for them to listen when they need to talk.
Don’t do it all alone
If a friend has told you that they are thinking about suicide, there are lots of services and support out there — don’t put pressure on yourself to be the only one who can help. Think about who can give support — family members, work colleagues, and mental health professionals. If there is an immediate risk that the person may harm themselves, they will need emergency help.
Do keep in touch
People who are suicidal often withdraw from those around them. Stay connected with your loved ones and regularly check in on them.
If you are affected by any of the issues raised, you can contact:
Samaritans: freephone 116123 or text 087 260 9090
Pieta House: freephone 1800 247 247 or text HELP to 51444
Aware: freephone 1800 804 848
With thanks to the HSE for their guidelines on suicide support.
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