Mastering menopause: a stylist on feeling confident through your wardrobe
22nd Jan 2022
Across the country, women are navigating a wide range of menopausal symptoms – with little or no support. We call in the experts, and ask, what do women need to know to get through this life stage?
The menopause is one of the biggest events in any woman’s life and yet it is also one of the least talked about.
Most women cope with this confusing rite of passage by keeping quiet or making a joke of it. It doesn’t help, of course, that it occurs at one of the busiest stretches of a woman’s life. According to Annemarie Byrne, a nutritional therapist and coach, “Most of the women who come to me have the foot on the pedal. They have young kids, a career, ageing parents who need care. Stress levels are high. They are slow to realise they are in this period of change because they are last on their own list.”
Loretta Dignam is the founder of The Menopause Hub, a clinic for women going through the menopause that offers, among other things, GP assessments, nutritional guidance, physio and acupuncture. “I give menopause education and awareness training in the workplace and when I present the 40-odd symptoms women can get during the menopause, I see women connect the dots often for the first time. Because most know about hot sweats and loss of periods, but how many of us know about anxiety, panic attacks, joint pain, brain fog and memory loss? They are hugely relieved when they understand what’s going on because many of them thought they were going mad.”
Why do we know so little? “We are simply not educated about it,” says sexologist Emily Power Smith. “It should be taught in schools. This is a huge event in a woman’s life. It’s also inevitable. It will happen to you. Why don’t we know more?” In her experience, women don’t seek help until the symptoms have become overwhelming. This is why Annemarie likes to catch women in their late thirties. “Catch them later, and they tell me they don’t have time for self-care. And then I have to tell them that getting out of the downward spiral is going to take a lot more time than the self-care ever would have done.”
But attitudes are changing. In 2020, Vodafone announced its own employee commitment on the menopause, providing awareness training, sick leave and flexible hours. And there was the Joe Duffy show. Since it covered the menopause over five days last May, menopause clinics and mentors around the country found themselves inundated with calls. And last September 25th saw The Menopause Success Summit, a live online event featuring some of the top menopause experts (menopausesuccesssummit.com).
So what do you need to know? “Don’t suffer in silence,” says Loretta. “Get the right help from the right people.” With this in mind, we’ve assembled some of Ireland’s leading voices – meet stylist Michelle Kilroy, who says to;
By Michelle Kilroy, stylist and personal shopper, thestylopath.com.
“I take a tailored approach to every client I work with. We talk about their life, lifestyle, work and family life and how they view and feel about their body and style. Of course, I’m very focused on style, but being comfortable, no matter what stage of life, is a top priority for me when working with a client, and never more so than women at stages of life where physical and hormonal changes are happening such as during pregnancy, postnatal, perimenopause and menopause. All my solutions are individual and symptom-based: choosing the right fabrics (natural, breathable fabrics such as linen, silk, cotton and some of the newer technology temperature regulating fabrics); finding stylish and versatile ways to layer to help women manage hot flushes; choosing looser styles, elastic waists and the right proportions and structure if there are body changes a client is conscious of; thinking about vibrant accessories and statement pieces to make you feel good. My priority is putting together a modern and fashionable capsule wardrobe that works hard for my clients at every stage of their life that, above all, makes them feel confident.”
Contact Michelle via [email protected] or through her Instagram page @thestylopath for further information on packages and pricing.
For more from Ireland’s leading experts on mastering menopause, see Loretta Dignam, founder of The Menopause Hub on speaking out here, Annemarie Byrne, nutritional therapist and coach on nourishing yourself here, sexologist Emily Power Smith on loving yourself here, Sallyanne Brady on finding a community of support here, gynaecologist and women’s health doctor Dr Shayi Dezayi on seeking an expert medical opinion here, Dr Nina Bing Liu of AcuPlus on rebalancing here, physiotherapist Christine Gioia on getting moving here or see the full series here.
Illustration by Anne O’Hara. This article originally appeared in the Autumn 2021 issue of IMAGE Magazine.