How to reflect on the last year to set your goals for 2024

The temptation is to brush it under the carpet, which let’s face it, you are quite good at, and allow yourself become distracted by all the external white noise that has you permanently looking up ahead. The shiny, sparkly new year is here and you convince yourself that things will feel easier if you divert your attention to what’s going to happen in the future.

When you finally admit that you are in fact avoiding the past, and possibly some of the things that happened in it; you have to ask yourself what did I just learn from that? Every single thing that happens, every person you come across, every experience you live through all has the potential to teach you something important about yourself. By constantly rushing on to the next thing you normally miss out on this golden opportunity – but not this time!

Next, I’m going to ask you a series of questions that will remind you of what happened in the last year so that you can identify the valuable lessons that you learned, even those you’ve been ignoring!

What worked well for you? When you reflect on the past year – what was it that makes you smile, content, satisfied. What did you try that worked? What were you a little bit scared of, but you did it, you pushed yourself and it all went well in the end?

Equally, what led to disappointment? Was there something you put a lot of work and effort into and it didn’t turn out how you wanted? Why do you think that was? What would you do differently, next time, or do you feel it’s time now to park it in the past?

What information did you acquire that really helped you? You may have read a book, spoke with a coach, did an online course, attended a workshop – what did you discover that changed your behaviour and benefitted what you did next?

Where did you find you had the greatest clarity in your life? Regardless of whether it was a positive or negative outcome what happened that opened your eyes?

What did you do last year that truly surprised you? What is it you would love to do more of? When you hit difficult times and challenges that felt impossible to overcome, can you recall what you did or who you turned to?

This leads us on to an extremely important point when it comes to doing your own personal review. The tendency, when we look back on any time of our lives is usually to focus on the ‘whats’ and the ‘hows’, which, of course, are crucial. But, trust me, it’s just as necessary for you to look back at the ‘whos’; who influenced you, affected you, helped you or hindered you.

Questions that will help you explore this further by going to the layer beneath include:
Who was with you when you felt at your best?
Who could you see tried to make you feel better
Who were your cheerleaders?
Who, when you were in their company, did you not feel free to be yourself?
Who do you feel safe to be you with?
Who let you down?
Who disappointed you?
Who inspired you to do more and to be more?
Who motivated and encouraged you to achieve more.
Who put pressure on you and were critical of you?
Who showed you they loved you?
Who respected your opinions and feelings?

While some of these questions might at first glance seem simple and, dare I say it, a little obvious, let me assure you that they are designed to appear that way; but they will also provide you with some vital information on how situations, and people, made you feel this past year, which in turn, will inform what you learn, what you want to leave behind and what you want to continue repeating.

We rarely give ourselves the time to do this and so much of the discussion that takes place at this time of year is far too heavily focused on resolutions and totally overlooks the treasure that lies in the detail of the year gone by.

It’s all too easy to fall into the trap of just looking at those things that you didn’t get right or that you didn’t do. So why not use this review process to begin thinking about how the year was for you and then acknowledge all of your learnings so that you can see the potential that lies ahead for you.

And as you step from one year to the next let me remind you that it was David Bowie who fittingly said ‘I don’t know where I’m going from here, but I know it won’t be boring!’

Niamh Ennis is Ireland’s leading Change & Transformation Coach and Author of Get Unstuck who through her private practice, writings, programmes, workshops and podcast has inspired and helped thousands of people to make significant changes in their lives. She is an accredited Personal, Leadership & Executive Coach and the Lead Coach in the IMAGE Business Club. Niamh is introducing a selection of new ways you can work with her in 2024 – including a half day ‘Quick Fix’, a full day ‘Get Clarity’ and is also currently accepting applications for her  flagship‘3 Month Bespoke 121 Coaching Programme called  Strategy Meets Soul, starting February 2024. Email niamh@niamhennis.com for info. Instagram @1niamhennis.

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