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A transformation coach on when it’s time to leave a relationship


by Niamh Ennis
17th Sep 2024

Recognising when it's time to leave isn't about giving up; it's about creating space for the relationships that truly support, nourish, and reflect who you want to be, says leading Transformation Coach and Business Mentor Niamh Ennis.

Deciding to leave a relationship or friendship is never easy. It requires deep introspection, courage, and a willingness to prioritise your own well-being. But knowing when to let go can be a profound act of self-love. It’s not about blame or failure; it’s about recognising that some relationships are only meant to be part of your journey for a season, not a lifetime.

Often, we hold on out of habit, fear of the unknown, or loyalty to what once was, even when the connection has become more draining than uplifting. But deep down, there comes a point when you feel the subtle, persistent pull—a quiet voice urging you to acknowledge that staying is costing you more than it’s giving.

Recognising when it’s time to leave isn’t about giving up; it’s about creating space for the relationships that truly support, nourish, and reflect who you want to be. This realisation doesn’t happen overnight; it’s a gradual awakening to the signs that something isn’t right.

When things change

You start noticing how interactions that once brought joy now leave you feeling drained or uneasy. The laughter you used to share feels forced, and your attempts to communicate are met with defensiveness or indifference. There’s a growing imbalance—one person giving more while the other seems complacent or disconnected. You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells, avoiding certain topics to prevent conflict, or finding yourself constantly making excuses for their behaviour. If any of these ring true it might be time to consider what’s next for you.

These patterns weigh heavily on your emotional well-being, and over time, the relationship that was supposed to be a source of support becomes an intense source of stress. It’s in these moments of discomfort that clarity often begins to emerge.

You start to question not just the relationship, but your role in it—why you’ve stayed, what you’ve been tolerating, and how it’s affecting your sense of self. You ask what is it I am afraid of if I leave?

Doing the work

This is where the real work begins: the inner dialogue that asks you to reflect on your needs, values, and boundaries. Are you being true to yourself in this relationship, or are you compromising parts of who you are just to keep the peace? This self-inquiry can be uncomfortable, as it forces you to confront the fear of change and the unknown. Yet, it’s also an opportunity—a chance to reclaim your energy, step into a space where your connections align with your growth, and choose relationships that reflect the love and respect you desire.

Sometimes leaving is the most loving choice you can make—for both you and the other person. It’s an act of courage to step away from what’s familiar and face the uncertainty of what’s next. This is your life. Don’t settle. Don’t stay where you are not loved, not heard or not wanted.

Remember, choosing yourself is not a loss—it’s a powerful act of self-love and a gateway to the connections that truly resonate with who you are becoming.

Niamh Ennis is a leading Transformation Coach & Business Mentor who through her private practice, programmes, workshops, and podcast supports women to achieve clarity, build confidence, and master the strategies needed to elevate in life and business.  She’s the Lead Coach in The IMAGE Business Club. Click here to get Niamh’s free ELEVATE Masterclass. Find her on Instagram at @1niamhennis.