The toll of continuous conflict on a family, especially one in the spotlight, is relentless.
This week, the Kardashians are back in the headlines after rapper Kanye West posted, then deleted, a series of messages on Instagram claiming he was once addicted to pornography and calling out his estranged wife, Kim Kardashian’s, approach to co-parenting.
The couple have four children together, North, Saint, Chicago and Psalm.
Kayne went on to share a private text seemingly from Kim, which appeared to pass along a message from her mother, who claimed to be worried that Kanye’s antics is causing her too much stress.
And she’s probably not wrong.
Despite recent reports that the couple were finally putting their differences aside, this most recent outburst shows that there is much to be resolved between the couple. And it isn’t the first time Kayne has publicly shared his opinion on Kim and her parenting skills as well as throwing her past back in her face.
The Yeezy designer claims his upset is because he wants the children to attend different schools.
“This is co-parenting,” the 45-year-old wrote via Instagram yesterday along with a screenshot of a text message that he implied was sent to the SKIMS founder, 41. In the text, West proposed that their four kids split their week between two different schools.
The rapper says he has been stripped of “having a say on where my children go to school”.
But it’s clear from the tone of Kayne’s messages and the fact that he’s posting such comments online in a seemingly erratic way that there is a lot more going on that we know.
Communication is impossible when its irrational or not taking into consideration mental health concerns. And still, for the most part, Kim Kardashian, the children’s mother, remains silent.
Apart from agreeing on the Ellen DeGeneres show that she tried to always take the ‘high road’ when it comes to coparenting with her ex, Kim has maintained a dignified silence when it comes to the insults that Kayne hurls her way.
After Ellen praised Kim for always “protecting” Kanye no matter what is happening between them, Kim said, “I think that’s just who I am, and I always had such a good example in my mom and my dad and their relationship. So I’m always just hopeful, and no matter what goes on, it’s the father of my kids.
I’ll always be protective. I always want my kids to just see the best of the best. I just try to—as hard as it can be sometimes—I do try to ignore it and try to do whatever’s best for the kids. Take the high road.”
The second eldest Kardashian also went on to say that sometimes she thinks there is a bigger reason that these challenges crop up.
“But I also think sometimes these are lessons. This was put in my life for a reason, and these challenges and I just think…I try to really, as hard as it is, I try to sit still sometimes and be like, Okay, what is this lesson, what am I meant to learn from it, and how can I just get through it, and what is this challenge placed here in my life?”
She did however, describe his comments in the past as ‘hurtful’ after they became extremely personal and insulting.
“Divorce is difficult enough on our children and Kanye’s obsession with trying to control and manipulate our situation negatively and publicly is only causing further pain for all. From the beginning I have wanted nothing but a healthy and supportive coparenting relationship because it is what is best for our children, and it saddens me that Kanye continues to make it impossible every step of the way.”
Of course, we only get a snippet of what’s really going on but at the face of it is a couple struggling to reach consensus on how they move forward with their children. And it’s the children that bear the brunt of that. Kim Kardashian’s silence following that initial statement, I imagine, is based on protecting her children. It must be frustrating to try and convey that to the person she’s trying to raise her children alongside.
But there’s only so much you can do. In this case, not reacting is probably the mother’s only choice against this tirade. And there is no amount of media handling that can help with managing that.