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Seriously, it’s time to stop with the celebrity pregnancy speculation


by Sarah Finnan
26th Aug 2021

@kyliejenner

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The endless speculation about who’s pregnant or trying to conceive is exhausting, and frankly I don’t think any of us should care.

Yes, of course, it’s lovely to celebrate the news that someone we admire is expecting but that celebration should come after – and only after – said person has announced that news to the public themselves. If they haven’t done so yet, there’s probably a reason for it. 

It seems weird that I’d have to point this out, but most of us aren’t detectives and finding out intimate details about people we don’t know isn’t in our job descriptions. Having others snoop around in our own personal affairs isn’t something we like done to ourselves and just because celebrities have chosen to be in the spotlight, it doesn’t mean that they particularly enjoy it either. 

Doesn’t it kind of come with the territory, you ask? Well, to a certain extent, yes I suppose it does. That said, there’s a definite line between public and private life and pregnancy, kids and anything family-related (that they don’t share themselves) obviously falls in the latter category. 

Settling down

As any woman of childbearing age will tell you, the questions regarding when they plan on “settling down” or starting a family can quickly swerve into dangerous territory. Most of the time, the queries come from well-intentioned friends and relatives who ask out of genuine interest or just for want of conversation. It’s not always a topic people want to discuss though, and there is a myriad of reasons why it should be off-limits. 

From fertility struggles to poor family health histories to miscarriages, couples could be dealing with any number of things behind the scenes and just as you wouldn’t ask someone how much money they earn, you shouldn’t ask them unwarranted pregnancy questions either. 

For the record

As bad as it is for us “normal” people, it’s 10 times worse for celebrities. Jennifer Aniston has been plagued by the media for years about her decision not to pursue motherhood. There are thousands upon thousands of articles about whether she has kids, if she plans on having kids, why she doesn’t have kids etc. 

Not that she owes us an explanation, but the Friends actress tried to put the whole thing to bed with an essay she penned for The Huffington Post a couple of years ago. “For the record, I am not pregnant. What I am is fed up,” she wrote in response to yet more conjecture about her womb. “I’m fed up with the sport-like scrutiny and body shaming that occurs daily under the guise of ‘journalism’, the ‘First Amendment’ and ‘celebrity news’.”

“We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies,” she continued. That should have been the end of it, but of course, the speculation over how/if children will factor into her future still continues five years on. 

Royal pain

Aniston isn’t the only one to be tailed by such rumours throughout her career either. You might think that being a royal would exempt you from petty gossip but we’ve all witnessed the scrutiny Meghan Markle has come under firsthand. It’s hard to believe that someone could have it worse than Jen did, but Meghan definitely takes the crown in this case – no pun intended.  

Criticised for wearing maternity clothes mere months after giving birth to Archie, the tabloids were laden with close-ups of her midsection; each one accompanied by thoughtless captions about “not losing the baby weight”, or surmising she was pregnant yet again. Such was the furore over whether she was with child, that it overshadowed a subsequent interview she gave to ITV… one in which she admitted how damaging the constant media circus has been for her, Harry and their new family unit. 

 

Hinting that she was overwhelmed by motherhood and the incessant public interest that came with it, no one paid any heed to her comments and people continued to hypothesise she was pregnant with her second child right up until the couple’s surprise announcement in February of this year. 

Realising things

More recently, Kylie Jenner has found herself the subject of the public’s special pregnancy microscope. The youngest of the Kardashian Jenner clan, Kylie had already seen several of her sisters go through the pregnancy process and all that it entailed. Unlike her siblings, the makeup mogul decided that she wanted it to be a private affair though and impressively managed to keep her first pregnancy under wraps for the entire nine months. 

Only revealing that she was expecting after actually giving birth, she did so by way of an 11-minute YouTube video.

Credited with pioneering a “whole new way of being pregnant on the internet” by Harper’s Bazaar, it was more than just a PR stunt as some people have suggested. Asked why the secrecy on a Keeping Up With The Kardashians reunion special, Kylie said that it was something she felt she needed to do. 

“I shared so much of my life,” she told host Andy Cohen of her decision. “I was also really young when I got pregnant, and it was just a lot for me personally. I didn’t know how I would bring that to the public too and have everyone’s opinion. I think it was just something that I needed to go through by myself.”

Her sisters agreed with Kim interjecting about her own experiences. “There were times when we would be driving and pregnant, and paparazzi would almost crash into our cars because they just wanted a picture. Kylie really wanted to, I think, protect her safety, the baby, and have that just be a private moment,” she said.

Again, you’d think that that would be the end of it, but the internet is awash with “Is Kylie pregnant?” articles once more. The lengths the reality star went to to hide her first pregnancy should be enough to tell you that she doesn’t want people to know. As should the Instagram posts that followed, which featured a bikini-clad Jenner showing the world just how not pregnant she is. 

So, why then are we so obsessed with beating her to the punchline and uncovering the “truth”? Maybe Kylie is pregnant. Maybe she has been for a while. Maybe she will reveal all at the Met Gala next month as some reports suggest… but, does it matter? It’s her life, her body, her pregnancy and she’ll fill us in on whatever’s been going on in her own time and on her own terms.

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