The new ghd pink collection donates to the Irish Cancer Society
The new ghd pink collection donates to the Irish Cancer Society

Holly O'Neill

7 homes for sale in Ireland that are RIGHT on the water
7 homes for sale in Ireland that are RIGHT on the water

Lauren Heskin

Ask The Expert: Surrogacy in Ireland – legally, what do I need to know?
Ask The Expert: Surrogacy in Ireland – legally, what do I need to know?

Karen Tobin

‘When your business is in design, good camera quality is essential’: Siobhan Lam on running interiors business April and the Bear
‘When your business is in design, good camera quality is essential’: Siobhan Lam on running...

Lauren Heskin

‘Comparing women and men’s sport goes against the spirit of, well, sport’
‘Comparing women and men’s sport goes against the spirit of, well, sport’

Edaein OConnell

6 steps to improve your gut health, according to a gastroenterologist
6 steps to improve your gut health, according to a gastroenterologist

IMAGE

Tokyo controversies: It’s 2021, why can’t the Olympics get it right?
Tokyo controversies: It’s 2021, why can’t the Olympics get it right?

Sarah Finnan

Tokyo 2020: When the Irish Olympic team are competing and how to watch them
Tokyo 2020: When the Irish Olympic team are competing and how to watch them

Sarah Finnan

‘Love Island’ is finally love islanding and last night’s episode was full of drama
‘Love Island’ is finally love islanding and last night’s episode was full of drama

Sarah Finnan

Glossier Solar Paint is your cheat for natural sun-kissed skin
Glossier Solar Paint is your cheat for natural sun-kissed skin

Holly O'Neill

Image / Living / Culture

‘I want people to please, please recognise how close she was to being healthy’


by Jennifer McShane
12th Jun 2021

A decade after the untimely death of Amy Winehouse, the singer's best friend has opened up about her lifelong battle with her demons and wants her remembered in a different way.

To say that Amy Winehouse was a member of the 27 Club as she is frequently referred to is an injustice to the talent of this extraordinary female musician. Truly, there never was, nor has been since her death, a voice quite like hers with its deep, expressive contralto vocals. So much power and emotion in lyrics she penned about subjects light and dark be it in the throes of addiction or love – her gift was a rarity and the cultural landscape is lessened without her in it.

But when she died a decade ago, the tabloids in Britain had already documented her ‘life’; her demons from bulimia to her addiction to drink and drugs and tumultuous marriage and divorce. They hounded her when her phenomenal sophomore album Back to Black catapulted her into superstardom – every unflattering photo they could get was published – and as she struggled to cope with the pressure of her newfound fame, her addiction worsened.

However, Tyler James, who knew Amy Winehouse from the age of 13 and shared her home in Camden, London says he knew a different Amy. Best friends for years, the pair had supported each other through the same additions but he lived and tragically, she did not.

Speaking to The Times James, also a singer, said he left the home two days before Winehouse’s death following an argument with her, in the hope that it would shock the singer into curbing her binge drinking. “I was running out of ideas,” he said.

She is remembered the wrong way, he says, and explained it was her strength she should be known for, not as a “doomed person.”

“I want people to please, please recognise how hard she had worked to come off drugs and just how close she was to [giving up drink] for good, how close she was to being healthy. She was so, so close to being exactly where I am. ”

Amy was a girl in her twenties suffering from addiction, and everybody was a part of it. Everybody was watching it. When you go to rehab, you have to be the strongest you’ve ever been in your life, when you are the weakest you’ve ever been in your life. And she had to go through that in front of people. I want people to know what it was, to stop seeing her as this doomed person.

Fame was the start of what would lead to her death.

“I wanted to tell what it was like for her, having to actually live in that world,” James added (he has written a book My Amy detailing their friendship). “With that level of fame, that level of intrusion, that lack of privacy. I don’t think people really realize the effect that has on a person. She craved normality. The biggest thing that f—-ed Amy up was being famous.”


“Amy went through a lot. It was hard for her. It was a different time back then. If you were famous, you could be hounded. They didn’t care how that affected your mental health, or if it was making your addiction worse…. I don’t blame the music industry. I don’t blame Amy’s management. I blame addiction. That’s what I lost my friend to.”

What he reveals is a woman who wanted to forgo being famous – she once referred to it as “terminal cancer” – and sadly how he has never recovered after losing her.

A sobering reminder of a “once-in-a-lifetime voice” which we got in exchange for the life of the person who wielded it quite unlike any other.

For support services relating to alcohol or addiction, please see citizensinformation.ie

Also Read

microwave
CULTURE
Nigella Lawson’s unusual pronunciation of the word ‘microwave’ has earned her a BAFTA nomination

Could Nigella Lawson’s pronunciation of the word ‘microwave’ be a recipe for BAFTA success? Only time will tell. 2020 was...

By Sarah Finnan

PROPERTY
This jaw-dropping home with sea views in Dalkey is on the market for €6.9 million

Set on a spectacular site looking out across Dublin Bay, this modern home has five bedrooms, airy living spaces and an elevated terrace.

By Megan Burns

The Crown Harry and Meghan
CULTURE
This is why ‘The Crown’ creator refuses to cover the Meghan and Harry drama

Garnering almost 40 Emmy nominations over the course of its first three seasons, ‘The Crown’ show has already proven itself...

By Sarah Finnan

rural homes for sale
PROPERTY
3 picture-perfect rural homes around the country for under €100,000

These super cute cottages make a great case for a life in the countryside.

By Megan Burns

laura de barra
INTERIORS
Laura de Barra’s guide to cleaning with everyday household items (for less than €100)

Irish property portfolio developer, illustrator and author Laura de Barra transforms appliances, chrome, tiles and drains with a small budget.  Laura de Barra is an Irish...

By IMAGE Interiors & Living

In the Heights
CULTURE
Everything you need to know about ‘In the Heights’ and why people are accusing it of colourism

The hotly-anticipated movie adaptation of Lin-Manuel Miranda’s ‘In the Heights’ opens in Irish cinemas later this week, however, the movie...

By Sarah Finnan

Elderflower cordial popiscles
FOOD & DRINK
Your bank holiday weekend needs these cucumber and elderflower cordial popsicles

In perhaps the gentlest of all the lockdown trends, it seems like the world and its Instagram-savvy mother is making...

By Amanda Kavanagh