17th Feb 2021
To think, as a woman in the public eye, you might have to go through your life re-living moments of past trauma, not because you find it cathartic or because speaking publically about it may be freeing, but instead, you feel you must – if only to satisfy the whims of gossip columnists.
This was recently the case for the This Is Us star, who took to Instagram to explain that she had been asked to do an interview with an unnamed publication, who then backed out after she refused to enter into discussions about her private life, namely involving instances of alleged abuse in her past.
The actor shared a slightly redacted message on her Instagram Stories, in which an interview offer is withdrawn after Moore refused to discuss “a certain subject”.
“When [the publication] were told that I had spoken plenty about a certain subject in my life and would have no further comment (truly there are countless interviews they could pull from, that story is over and there’s nothing more to say), this was the response we got back,” Moore wrote.
In the message, the journalist stated that Moore’s interview would be “put on pause for the time being” because of her unwillingness to discuss the topic in question. Moore wrote that her “blood is still boiling” after receiving the message.
At this stage, everyone can deduce what this “certain subject” refers to and out of respect, we won’t name it here, as Moore is right, she has spoken publically about it before and has moved on as a result.
The journalist/publication wrote that the interview would have to be put “on pause” if she wasn’t willing to talk about her past abuse, saying “it would be wrong” to run a story about her career without including those details: “If Mandy doesn’t want to talk about this though we have to respect that and it would be wrong for us to proceed with the interview.
The wrong message about abuse
Why would it be wrong to discuss the career and life of a talented woman without including moments of trauma? The notion is ludicrous and infuriating; as if Moore has nothing to offer in her story but pain, sadness and as she puts it, an opportunity for “clickbait.”
She called the interview cancellation “so out of touch with the cultural discussion around abusive relationships,” and she cautioned the media against “directly linking someone’s value back to their abuser.”
“I have been in this business for over two decades with plenty to chat about and sure, this publication can do as they please, but the message this sends is insulting and so out of touch with the cultural discussion around abusive relationships, directly linking someone’s value back to their abuser,” she said.
“The refusal to interview someone unless they agree to relive that trauma publicly? No thank you. I am about to give birth any second and I’m not afraid to draw healthy boundaries. Bye.”