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The orgasm gap
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The Orgasm Gap: ‘We have this frustrating myth that sex is easy and innate’


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by Aoife Drury
18.02.22

Read time: 8 mins

Is there a story you have told yourself about how sex “should” be? Aoife Drury, psychosexual and relationship therapist, gives simple advice on how to break down myths make sex more enjoyable for both parties.

Consider these questions. What’s your definition of sex? Is there a pattern to how it begins for you? How do you know when sex is over? What role do orgasms play in your narrative? I don’t know your answers; maybe you are part of the 95% that define sex as intercourse, or one of the 65% that define sex as being over when a man ejaculates, or indeed one of the 50% of women who...

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