‘I do not call myself a victim or a survivor’: reflections from the other side of abuse

Some will say that they are a victim of sexual abuse. Some prefer to say they are a survivor. I refuse to wear a label of any kind. I simply put the blame back where it belonged and reclaimed my life. I wasn’t a child defending myself, I was a strong independent woman defending the child I once was. That made the playing field much more even. The feelings of guilt that hang over your...