Can you Marie Kondo your mind? Yes, you can, and here’s why you should, says transformation coach Niamh Ennis…
Think about this… Where you look, you go – what you focus on, you create more of.
Have you had your first December meltdown yet? It’s really no surprise that at this time of year, we start to feel more than a little stressed by all that’s happening around us. But what if we decided, now that it’s December, to start decluttering our minds and letting go of all the things that are holding us back and blocking us? What if we started to create more space and make more room in our minds?
What would happen if we slowed down in order to help us move faster? There are three parts to the process of creating space in our minds:
1. Releasing and letting go.
2. Creating our own personal vision.
3. Setting our goals and resolutions.
Too often, we approach it the wrong way around, in reverse, and then wonder why every year we fail to achieve our goals and resolutions. The idea of letting go of what we have, in order to get what we want, sounds a little counter-intuitive, and yes, a little out there, but if we are honest with ourselves, we hold on to far too much in our heads and our hearts, simply because it feels safer.
We feel protected by what is familiar. We find ourselves clinging on to negative habits, thoughts or patterns that allow us to avoid creating new ways of thinking, doing and being. That’s how fear presents itself in our lives. Insidiously appearing as something that is protecting us, while, in actual fact, it is preventing us from facing our own truths and limiting beliefs. It is our way of getting in our own way.
What could happen
Consider, however, what could happen if:
– We chose first to create space, to make room, so that we can invite in new thoughts and ideas and open ourselves up to exciting new possibilities that we once felt were out of our reach?
– We decided to let go and move from our old ways of clinging to the hurt, pain, disappointment as well as our insatiable need to control all that happens to us and trusted that we are exactly where we are supposed to be?
– We acknowledged that true alignment happens when we stop repeating those things that make us feel bad, and do more of the things that make us feel good about ourselves?
– We consciously started to spend time with the people who make us feel good about ourselves, getting out into nature, meditating, treating ourselves, enjoying our own company, exercising whatever lights us up and then doing so much more of that.
– We accept that the stories, the narrative, by which we have lived our lives, have changed and that we no longer wish to identify with the person we once were. In order to do this, we must have a strong sense not of who we were, but more importantly, who we want to become.
Who do you want to become?
Have you thought about this? Who do you want to become? This is your why. This is the reason you need to let go and create space so that this person has room to emerge. This is not to over-simplify the act of letting go or to pretend that any of this process is easy. It’s not. But it is always worthwhile. Let go of what’s blocking you. Just get out of your own way.
– You may even uncover a need to let go of people in your life and to admit that they are not bringing out the best in you. It takes real courage to admit that some relationships are in fact blocking you.
– You may admit that you are too influenced by the thoughts of others and are allowing yourself to stay small because ironically you don’t want anyone to think you have notions about who you are or who you want to be!
– You may not want to admit that what you need are better boundaries to help you to say no, when you mean no. To stop worrying about appearing selfish and create space for you to feel more true to yourself and much more in alignment with who you want to become.
So this December, take time to honour yourself and think of all that you want and need to let go of, as you prepare to draw a line under this past year, and decade, and create space so that you are more available to live the life you truly deserve.
Learn to love the sound of your feet walking away from people and things that are not meant for you and just let go.
Photo: Niamh Ennis
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